Six months ago, God asked me a question:
If time and money were not an issue, what would you do?
When I first heard this question, I was in the midst of a life-changing event and earnestly praying for a miracle. So, when God posed that question, I thought it meant he was sending a sudden windfall.
Unfortunately, that never panned out. However, every single time I started to panic, bracing myself for rain in the middle of those storms, God would ask me again:
"If Time and Money were not an issue, what would you do?"
It took me hearing this question several different times to finally start to think about my response, but when I did, I started applying it to the very real circumstances that lay before me. I thought, "Would I still choose this if time and money didn’t matter??
What I realized, very quickly, was that a lot of "options" started to fall away when I seriously asked myself that question. Obligations rooted in fear. Decisions made under pressure. Paths chosen because they feel “safe” or familiar rather than aligned.
One clear example was staying in New York. I had renewed my lease while waiting to hear back from law schools. It felt practical. My daughter still had school, life felt uncertain, and keeping the lease seemed easier than making a big change. But when I asked myself that question again—If time and money were not an issue, what would you do? The answer was clear.
I need to… leave New York.
Not because I don’t love my city, but because I knew it was time to leave. I needed a clean break. I didn’t want lingering attachments to a version of life I had already outgrown. I made the decision mentally, but my actions lagged.
Applying that question—over and over, in big and small ways—has been incredibly liberating. It forces clarity. It reveals what was truly aligned versus what was simply tolerated.
This isn’t a new concept. Life coaches have been asking versions of this question forever. I remember a goal-setting journal I had in my early twenties, mapping out dreams for one year, five years, ten years, even twenty. The same question appeared there too: If you didn’t have to worry about time or money, how would you live?
Part of me is sad I didn’t move faster, but I know I can be hard on myself. Harder than anyone else could ever be, really. I know I need to give myself grace. Just being able to acknowledge how much growth has happened, even if the outcomes don’t look the way I once imagined, is an accomplishment in and of itself. Also, now I can move forward with confidence in my decisions.
Lastly, there is one final realization that has been settling in my spirit:
Everything does not have to happen right now.
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Cliché? Yes, but true. There was a version of me who didn’t expect to live past certain ages. Now, here I am in my thirties, considering the possibility of longevity.
What if I live to 100? What kind of life do I want to build?
I want something sustainable. Something that supports not only me, but the people connected to me. Something that lasts beyond my lifetime.
I think the word I’m looking for is legacy.
So, I’ll leave you with the same question:
If time and money were not an issue, what would you do?
How would you live? How would you show up? What goals would you allow yourself to name?
I’d love to hear your thoughts.
In case you missed it….
This Month in Review…
Book of the Month 📚
First to a Million: A Teenager’s Guide to Achieving Early Financial Independence First to a Million
First to a Million explores the many advantages of FI while explaining the secrets of investing, living frugally, and maintaining an entrepreneurial mindset. Treating your finances differently than the average teenager will put you miles ahead of your peers, and with time (and compounding) on your side, you can win the game before it even starts!
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Soulful Sunday Recap 🛋
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